Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Have you missed to count "someone" ?

 It's often heard , women don't get to take care of themselves enough . I had feel its true but it's not just about women , but about any person who assumes the role of primary caregiver .
Society has seen women as primary caregiver and men as bread earner , so it applied mostly to women , but it really is the case with anyone who assumes the role of Primary caregiver of the family.This person assumes the role and considers it as duty to "give" constantly , forgetting the Self.
A beautiful story I read recently , describes it beautifully

"One time a group of 10 people crossed river and to ensure that all people crossed over safely they decided to head count  . Every time they counted they counted only NINE!! they took turns but got only NINE head count. This caused them worry and sadness.
A wise man passing by , saw them in despair and decided to help. He realized that the person counting is missing out himself . This time he asked them to count again and after they were done with Nine , the wise man reminded them that they are missing to count "themselves". Once they realized ,that all ten people were safe and they went happy !!"

Mostly as caregiver , we get so focused on taking care of others that we forget to count ourself as one among those . We alienate ourself from the care we are suppose to give to the "family".  While the frustration starts because we may be feeling exhausted , the actual cause of grief is that subconsciously we know we have missed someone we were responsible for and are not able to recognize who that is!!

Prayers not answered -- have we given our100% ?

A thought that crossed over ...We often blame God for not listening our prayers .. But .....
"Krishna was the supreme one and well knew that the villagers cannot lift the Govardhan Mountain .. But he asked them all to first try lifting it with all their might using their sticks , before he lifted it on his finger"

Anyone with logic can tell , villagers could not have done it on their own , and it was extremely easy for Krishna to do it in first place.
But we don't use our logic on " why he still asked ? "
.. He wanted to teach unless we put our best effort , no matter how much we pray , even though He has all powers he will not / may not be able to help . He need to see our intention ,to solve , our belief that it will be solved ,our faith in Him that He is by our side, and our best efforts even though it may be him alone who can solve them !!
"God also helps those who help themselves" !!
It's true that Nothing happens without his will , buts it's also true nothings happens without our effort!!

Have we put 100% effort to solve , before we blame Him for not listening to our prayers and solving our problems, which may be He only can solve.
"Miracles do happen" .. But don't forget the second part " Only if we give our 100% first" !!